Are you feeding the right one?

When you work in a service industry like Real Estate, you're bound to encounter a diverse range of individuals – the friendly, the competent, the reserved, the emotional, and occasionally, the more challenging personalities.

I'm continually intrigued by people, particularly those with more challenging dispositions. It's these individuals who often provide me with the most valuable lessons, both on a personal and professional level, hence my tattoo “ Never a failure, always a lesson”

This week, I successfully concluded a highly demanding transaction and client relationship, and throughout the process, I frequently revisited a particular parable to help me maintain control over which wolf to feed.

Whether you're new to this story or not, it underscores the fact that we have the power to influence our emotions and experiences.

It's common to adopt a victim mentality when faced with difficult situations and circumstances in our lives. In such moments, we tend to analyze our negative thoughts, feelings, and experiences by attributing them to external factors, such as other people, objects, or events. Essentially, we look outside of ourselves in an attempt to comprehend what's happening within. This tendency is a frequent occurrence, and it begs the question: Why do we do this? The answer lies in our need to cope with the challenges and to regain a sense of control when faced with situations beyond our control.

Yet, this approach has a drawback in that it diminishes our personal responsibility and the freedom to choose. While striving for a sense of control by assigning fault to external sources for our experiences, we unwittingly forfeit our own empowerment. This relinquishment occurs as soon as we become dependent on other people or external factors to shape our emotional states. Whether these emotions are positive or negative, we no longer fully own our emotional experiences when we believe they stem from anything other than our own decisions.

You have the power to make a big change in your life by choosing which wolf you want to feed. There are two wolves inside you: one hungry for negative things like anger, envy, sadness, and self-doubt.

Instead, you can focus your energy and resources on thoughts and emotions that are good for you, the other wolf. Even if you feel negative emotions, you don't have to keep thinking about them or giving them your attention. When you shift your focus away from them, it's like telling that negative wolf that you're not interested in feeding it anymore.

I decided to view the presence of those angry wolves in my journey as purposeful and compelled myself to seek the lessons they offer, as they are there to facilitate my personal growth.

Ultimately, I opted for gratitude as I recognized the strength that comes from my choice to nourish harmony, gentleness, understanding, care, optimism, and bliss.

Which wolf are you feeding?

With Love,

S~